Texting builds an almost intimate bond that can sometimes make it harder to meet face-to-face, because now your meeting is fraught and full of high stakes.
That being said, you should do some pre-date texting to check for deal-breakers, and more importantly, for safety reasons.
Oftentimes, what would happen was either the conversation would dry up or, when we did finally meet up in person, there was an inevitable letdown. Turns out, that’s because I was doing it all wrong.
According to dating expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Anita Chlipala, the timeline should be more in the range of “two to three days, enough to establish safety but not enough time to know important things about them via text instead of in person.
Since texting is a limited tool to get to know someone before meeting, should you consider other forms of conversation prior to the date? Chlipala says no — head straight into meeting in person, safely.
“In person is the best way to gauge chemistry," she says.
And she agrees that waiting too long to meet in person will make it harder for them to live up to your expectations“If you wait too long to meet, you will have created an impression of the person in your mind that can never be real when you connect face-to-face," she says.
"Better to move offline quickly and see if you're dealing with the real thing or just an endless flow of cheeky texts.”But perhaps Spira puts it best when she says, “If you feel online chemistry, why wait?
Ultimately, the most important factor in deciding when to move from texting to meeting in real life is if you are ready.
So, the question is, how long to text before having a first date is the right amount of time?