In stage two, we experience a shift from feeling attraction to feeling uncertain that our partner is right for us.The challenge in this stage is to recognize this uncertainty as normal and not be swayed by it.While I have explored many of these differences in my previous book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, there are many issues specifically relevant to being single that were not covered.A deeper understanding of single men and women can be immensely helpful in navigating through the five different stages of dating: attraction, uncertainty, commitment, intimacy, and engagement.A woman may mistakenly conclude her date is "just another man incapable of making a commitment" and give up.A man may think his date is another woman whose needs may smother him and take away his freedom. No matter how sincere you are, if your partner is misinterpreting your innocent and automatic reactions and responses, your attempts to create a relationship may be unsuccessful.In stage four we begin to experience real intimacy.We feel relaxed enough to let down our guard and share ourselves more deeply than before.
For this reason there are times when we cannot just "be ourselves." Instead, we must hold back our initial gut reactions and measure our responses in ways that will communicate where we are coming from.
Women ask: A woman's questions tend to revolve around one issue: How do I secure a loving, lasting relationship?