And if we look at intimacy that way, then most dating relationships are pure icing. In most cases, especially in high school, dating is short term, serving the needs of the moment.
People date because they want to enjoy the emotional and even physical benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of real commitment.
Im not talking about conflicts between me and the girls Ive dated. And based on my experiences and my exploration of Gods Word, Ive concluded that for Christians dating is a swerver a set of values and attitudes that wants to go in a direction different from the one God has mapped out for us. Self-control isn't enough I once heard a youth minister speak on the topic of love and sex. rending story about Eric and Jenny, two strong Christians who had actively participated in his youth group years earlier. But as time went by, their physical relationship slowly began to accelerate, and they wound up sleeping together.
Eric and Jennys dating relationship had started out innocently? Soon afterward they broke up, discouraged and hurt. But both came to him separately and expressed emotional trauma and guilt over past memories. Some of us had made the same mistake or watched it happen in the lives of our friends. We wanted the pastor to tell us what we were supposed to do instead.
Why am I talking to you about shopping carts when this book is about dating?
Well, I recall my bad luck with grocery carts because many times Ive experienced a similar battle of wills with dating.
Deepening intimacy without defining a level of commitment is plainly dangerous.
If a young man spent time at a girls home, family and friends assumed that he intended to propose to her.Like many dating relationships, Jayme and Troys became intimate with little or no thought about commitment or how either of them would be affected when it ended.