Your fellow date may not know, true, but you’re already connecting with people through technology, so it’s good to keep some (semi) natural elements to it. Admit it, half the fun of Tinder is parsing that infinite list of men and women.
Even if you’re investing in the apparent perks of gold and plus, they’re not going to count for anything if your personal profile isn’t a winner.
Being courageous is good, but being forward is something to be avoided unless it’s clearly a mutually appreciated style of conversation. The Guyliner has written a fabulous guide for us on how to ask for nudes, and how to send dick pics, and all his advice carries over here: never do it unsolicited. Never open with it, and if you do want to see pictures always build up to it and always be prepared to offer some in return. And, finally: if you’ve been talking for 24 hours and you’re not hating it, you should probably ask to take it up a notch, whether that’s moving to texting or even setting a date in the diary.
Feel free to post a topless pic, or a pic with friends, but the first picture must be an easily digestible photo of you, eyes visible, clothes on, with no other people around you.
There’s this idea that most women are dreaming of a man who towers above 6ft, but personally, I don’t think of height as a significant factor.
If you seem interesting (which is shown through the bio, which we’ll come on to shortly), there’s a lot greater chance that I’ll be asking about your hobbies than your height.
And this way, when you secure a match, it’s quite likely that the other person shares a similar sound outlook.). Your match is definitely going to ask about music if it’s on your profile, so save the embarrassment and share the songs you love. You should therefore adopt a positive attitude only when it comes to opening the app. Mazel tov, but imagine if that was how you introduced yourself in real life. Don’t make it niche: if it’s a TV show, make sure it’s Bodyguard rather than Supergirl, if it’s a news story, make sure it’s something exotic and exciting rather than a murder in their next of the woods, if it’s politics… We mentioned the importance of songs in bios earlier – and this is where the musical interests come into play. Open with a comment about a band he or she likes or if they’ve highlighted a track from an album you like kick off the conversation with a remark about another track on the LP.
You’re a lot more likely to find the right person that way. Do not- DO NOT- rely on obvious interests or state anything that is a substitute for a personality rather than part of one. You’re there to meet new people, so what’s to be glum about? Be open-minded and utilise the beauty of the app to get to know someone. If there was a word cloud for Tinder, the word ‘hey’- no punctuation, no additions- would be the largest presence there. Almost all variants of this are equally incompetent too: no winky faces. Clarifying mutual interests is basically like clarifying compatibility.As a woman who listens to a lot of music I’m immediately attracted to profiles that reference top artists and anthems more than those that don’t. Sure they could go with the standard ‘hey’, but nobody wants to give or receive that: you need a topic to leap off from. Alternatively: Check their profile for things to work with first of all.