Lack of boundaries is often linked to feeling unworthy and unlovable.
Boundaries tell people how you want to be treated based on what you believe you deserve.
Otherwise, you will be wasting lots of time in dating and random relationships.
Not to mention the amount of heartache you are going to experience.
Boundaries help you bring the right people into your life.
All those rejections, ghosting, and shattered hopes had a huge impact on me. Probably because I dated too much but also because I didn’t do much to protect myself and my energy on these dating adventures. It took me a while to realize that it was unhealthy; but eventually, I did.
I’d say yes to many men who were not suitable for me, because I didn’t want to be single. One day, I understood that the price was too high to pay and it was not worth it. The pain I experienced during those dating years was the greatest catalyst for my transformation, like it often is in life.
They helped me step into my power and start to respect myself more in order to find men who would respect me back. I made many life changes and promises to myself, but there was one obvious thing that stood out to me. That’s why I was creating so much heartache in my dating and love life. I was giving my power away by being way too accommodating and compromising too much.
It was the pain that helped me stop dating compulsively and find a better way. Because of weak boundaries, I allowed myself to stay in dysfunctional relationships for far too long.
For example, in dating, when you know what you will accept and what you won’t tolerate, and you openly express it with your potential date (at the right time and in a non-aggressive way), you give people an opportunity to decide whether they will respect your boundaries or not. You will feel like you are more in control of your own life.